You’re Wearing Your Child’s Hat
A scary thought can sometimes be the only thing that can get you moving. It brings an empty feeling to your heart and seems to wait there for a bit before waiting to make itself known. But, how can kids with anxiety deal with this? Is it right to keep them from their own fears?
For kids with anxiety, you may not know what they are afraid of. They may be so afraid of seeing their parents’ fear that they’re never able to be bothered with their fears. It’s then as if they’re afraid their own feelings are just as worthless as their parents’ fear. But, how can parents who understand the dangers of letting their kids face their fears teach their children not to hold back from their own fear?
Sometimes, you need to, and your children need to know that adults are doing the same. Today, your children have grown to adulthood, and they are no longer to pretend to be something that they’re not. Sometimes, you need to be able to understand your children when they show that they are fearful. Taking them to feel that fear and know their true feelings is just as important as feeding them their milk.
You may not be able to control your child’s fears. You may even be able to prevent them from showing it to you, but you cannot control their feelings and the source of their fear.
Before the date that you hold in your mind, you want to be able to check and reassure them that there are no hard feelings between you and their fears. It may be an attempt to calm them down before they see the full light. Sometimes, it’s for them to be able to come out and not be ashamed of their fears and reactions to those feelings. You are trying to help them find courage in their own feeling of fear.
As for doing anything else, it’s really not up to you. You can only bring balance to their day, and that’s more important to them. That’s why they feel safe, as long as you provide the room for them to deal with their own fears.
Once your children find comfort and progress, they might act out of the habit of being able to deal with their fears. At that point, you should remember to be their safety valve and not a complete buffer. While you feel compelled to keep them safe, you could be harming their confidence. They need their own space in the same way that they need that safe feeling that you convey to them in your own words and actions.
Too often, you feel worried about your child, and there is never an end to the anxiety that you put on them. You do so with a certain conviction and concern that they cannot imagine the impact it’s going to have. Children get used to how you do things because you do everything calmly for them, and they forget it’s so much more important to them than you.