What You Can Do in the Classroom to Help
When we have no children at home, being able to relate to others and knowing how to communicate with them is difficult and we often try to communicate with them by yelling at them, and sometimes even punching them. Although this is not as bad as yelling at children, often we may be yelling at ourselves which is why there are a multitude of teaching and behavior planning options to help us keep our behavior in check in the classroom.
Classroom Behavior Management
Can I hit my kid?
I can hit my kid whenever I want! He is shaking so much that it’s driving me crazy!
I cannot communicate with my child because she does not listen to me. She doesn’t understand me! I did not teach her anything!
Some parents feel the need to hit or yell at their children to get the attention they are seeking. Sometimes they put their own attention needs ahead of what is going on with their child and they become aware of their behavior, and consequently have to change them. Furthermore, hitting and yelling can often lead to self-hatred and feelings of helplessness. And the reality is that hitting is not only damaging to the child involved, but to anyone else in the classroom who witnesses it. It can also send a harmful message to the child’s peers which can lead to higher teen birth rates and dramatically increase incarceration rates later in life.
Other strategies for managing classroom behavior may include offering permission to have a recess sooner, focusing on small tasks rather than making big displays or challenging other children, advocating for peaceful ways to communicate, practicing being more patient, encouraging an involved parent, getting involved in organizing play times, and asking for help with difficult problems. And to promote gentle, honest communication between parents and children, it is essential that parents practice effective communication with their children.
Effective Teaching and Behavior Plans
Speaking from personal experience, I know that teachers have unrealistic expectations and sometimes they do not have the right patience or try to argue too much. Consequently, even the best teachers tend to lose control in the classroom and tend to yell at their students and sometimes punch them in the face. All too often, they are the targets of abuse. However, even if teachers don’t practice good teaching techniques or parents do not treat their child well at home, the teachers are usually supported by schools, and there are many resources available to help teachers improve and become more effective. And schools have programs and trainers that students and their parents can learn from, and which will help them learn the right techniques.
Without teachers as a supportive partner and parent-teacher relationship, the child-teacher relationship is generally not strong. The teacher usually has to work harder and try harder just to get the child to respond and follow through with an answer or offer. The difference for a child who follows through with the instructions of their teacher and a child who does not are very apparent in the child’s assessment of themselves and their performance.
So for a child who works hard, learns at home, and does not argue with their teacher or parent, the student’s assessment will be that they learned and did something they were supposed to do. On the other hand, a child who is not successful in school, does not listen to their teacher, and is not calm may have an assessment of their performance of “I could have done better and I did not.” No matter how hard their teacher tries, or what strategies they use, the problem usually appears and cannot be solved by other actions.
Chances are that you do not have any children at home, so you cannot practice these types of techniques on the kids you have. However, many teachers love to get feedback from their students and are always eager to hear student ideas and solutions. Many teachers are willing to help out and reward students who show their commitment to learning and keep their heads down and focus on improving their grades.
Let me add one more encouraging thing to the above paragraph. Schools that facilitate teacher-parent relationships are much more likely to be successful. Teachers love to work with the parents because as professionals, they understand their role, and they love to teach their students. Even though the child may not like it, it is a source of great success for a parent-teacher relationship to be one of the positive influences in their child’s life. Teachers and their parents need to work together to provide support to help build a successful school experience for the child.
It is important to note that in kindergarten, the teacher plays a strong role and usually keeps the focus on the child. But as you get into the elementary years, the focus typically shifts to the student and the parents play an increasingly large role. But the child and the teacher, ultimately, are responsible for student success.
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