How to Answer Dangers to Your Child That Happen at every Moment
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What are the answers to their questions? Of course they are. It’s your job as a parent to answer their queries. Here are a few easy ways to be prepared for the tricky questions that your child may ask at any given time:
How much should I tip? Grades for service may say 8-12%, but you’re probably going to be pretty embarrassed if you tip less than your son or daughter’s actual grade. And if the new hooter installed by the night before indicates that they aren’t up to speed on their academic ability or intelligence, it could cause a work/family conflict.
Do you have a boss that’s down on you? Children as young as eight need context for what they are learning in school. Some think a “boss” means their mom or dad; it can often mean another adult in a position of authority like a teacher, guidance counselor, or school administrator. Putting kids in a situation where adults are supposedly “down on them” is a gift in making an authoritative figure seem less powerful. Kids want to feel powerful as well. So try to make your boss the adult role model the kids want to emulate.
What kind of school are you? A younger child may know that schools are the places where bad guys get “dismissed” rather than expelled. Being removed from a campus for a year is frowned upon, so when a child asks if that will happen to them, the best option is to tell them that it would be inconvenient to go to your school and would take a year of your child’s life, so you’re not saying anything about them going, but the truth is we all change.
Do I need to do the same things every day at school? You may be asked about school when you’re about to move, when your kid is about to start college, or when your child will be entering kindergarten. When the child asks the obvious questions, like do you need to do the same school work every day? Be honest and tell them that there are times when you do need to do the same things because that’s the way it is. This will help your child understand that change is part of growing up and life. They don’t need to be told that when they turn sixteen, they can make their own choices. Children as young as five are going to think everything is a bad idea, so finding answers like this is important.
Be prepared to answer questions about drugs. Kids are exposed to it everywhere and some of them might see it as normal. Students are allowed to smoke marijuana in schools, adult clubs, and coffee shops, but it is against the law to sell marijuana or grow pot at home. Your child’s peers, teachers, and school staff will watch out for signs of drug use, but they can’t stop it. You can educate your child about drugs, but you can’t prevent them from experimenting.
Get a degree and a job. Your child isn’t thinking about all the people in their life who are getting kicked out of school. But if it sounds like your child is looking for a “second chance”, it’s time to talk to them. For instance, if your child is told that the school can’t provide him or her with a graduation diploma, they can’t think that the school “needs” to do that and have a problem with you feeling like that is a bad option for them.
How does what I eat make me feel? Not quite the same as saying “what is your favorite food?” Food can have an impact on their energy, mood, concentration, and a variety of other psychological results. However, food is a real factor in their lives and it should not be relegated to fantasy. There is a lot of poor nutrition out there and your child should know what they should be eating so they don’t have to worry. You don’t want to order a pizza with your child and figure out how to throw away the calzones the next day, but that is something you might have to do for them. Kids are no longer thinking about indulging in cookies and candy. They are thinking about what they eat to feel full. Decide on what you’re going to eat together before you leave the house, but it’s up to you to keep that information in mind when ordering take out.