4 common questions boys ask about puberty and what they actually mean
According to MindShift Software, in the U.S. alone, 70% of women under 25 have had an orgasm at least once, compared to only 40% of women aged 45-54 and 30% of women over 55. Below, we discuss some of the questions boys ask about puberty and what they actually mean.
Discussion #1: Will I be on hormone hormones, or only vaginal hormones?
According to preliminary research from the Barloch School of Medicine at DePaul University, testosterone production ceases for male sperm before menstruation. This means that a boy’s internal, heredity testosterone levels are lower than a girl’s hormone production.
Puberty, in the short-term, also changes brain chemistry (such as levels of dopamine, serotonin, and prolactin). In the long-term, puberty has also been linked to higher blood pressure, cholesterol levels, and a smaller waist circumference.
Discussion #2: Is milk and milk products an option for my kids?
What boys are really asking when they ask about milk and milk products is whether a higher milk intake will alter his sexual development (think pubic hair, loss of pubic hair, and the physical appearance of his penis), and whether a lower milk intake can prevent this.
Puberty comes later in a boy’s life, and certain messages about milk can be helpful in preventing this development. Some examples:
If you experience menstruation, your milk intake would increase – but some boys have periods and develop female genitalia before becoming sexually mature. If your child becomes sexually mature, he/she doesn’t need to consume more milk than her/his peers.
The physical appearance of the penis is a complex issue and varies from one boy to another. Your kids should observe their peers, figure out what other kids are doing (using their hands or their fingers to check the color of their phallus), and discuss it with your child.
Some boys choose to not drink milk because they are afraid to ingest a milk product they aren’t sure is safe. You can agree that it is OK to alternate milk and milk alternatives in the lunchbox, which are increasingly less expensive, more wholesome, and easily available.
Discussion #3: Has your body ever changed this much?
The second most popular question that boys ask is often about their body. Boys ask this question when they are concerned that their bodies are changing, and when they are asking how to relieve their concerns. The two questions usually overlap.
How do you show love when your body changes?
Boys ask about pheromones and cuddle positions. They want to know how to express love without wrapping a bed sheet around their head to kiss, as some girls do, to show love. Sometimes their questions are triggered by fears that their natural curls might disappear because their hair growth has stopped. They ask about that.
When their puberty changes their body, they are afraid to enjoy it too much. Some ask what they can do to change puberty. They ask what they need to do to watch for physical changes. They ask what type of sex they can engage in.
Puberty changes the appearance of their genitals, the prostate, the urinary tract, the genitals, and more. Some boys ask:
Can I take vaccines for my penis, testicles, and tonsils (not for urinary tract infections)?
Can I buy an erection-reducing drug like Viagra or Cialis?
Can I shorten the course of regular treatment for my tonsils to cure them of bacteria?
Can I choose regular adult-exclusive sex?
Does it mean I’m less powerful than you?
Do I hurt yourself?
Discussion #4: Is it normal for their body to transform?
Generally, boys ask if their body is normal, what it is. Their questions are informed by the way they see their body change, in their own bodies and in their peers. The age groups between 5-8 and 12-18, of course, are more susceptible to issues of puberty.
Your kid is just asking questions
If your child is just asking the right questions, here are some more observations.
What change does it mean to have “normal” sexual development?
What is it like for puberty to change the way your body feels, looks, acts, and thinks?
Do you think your son is doing OK?
Help your child question development!
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