How to help your child learn to be independent
Children learn in a way that their parents will always realize, no matter how hard you try to discourage them. While it’s inevitable that your children will mature, play and learn in their own ways, you can see their errors and mistakes before they’re too big for a walk around the block.
The joy of child-rearing is learning by experiencing. Parents invest a lot of faith and time in helping their children grow as independent individuals. This includes their ability to contribute to the family as well as to build a happy and successful future.
But as hard as you try to steer them in the right direction, kids inevitably learn on their own. In fact, you’ll find that their errors and mistakes are magnified and propelled to such heights. So how do you avoid mistakes and help your kids learn how to be independent in the process?
Children are at the stage when they are still developing their sense of self. At this stage, they often feel that they don’t quite belong in a conventional sense. This stage, which is called brattyness, can be a source of so much pain that parents probably worry that their children will never grow out of it. The challenge is to keep them moving forward, as well as avoid mistakes and misery. Here are the many mistakes children do that their parents would probably love to avoid.
“I wouldn’t make my mistakes.”
Most children try to conform to what they think their parents would want them to do. Sometimes they feel the need to play as if they’re in a typical environment. By playing the same games as everyone else, they begin to feel like they’re doing the right thing. But in reality, children have to play in a way that provides them with rewards and challenges. They need to pick a method that is right for them.
“There’s no point trying things I wouldn’t let my friends try.”
There’s a reason why most parents encourage their children to go outside with their friends, or to play sports. Having fun is important, but at the same time, there’s something to be said for developing sportsmanship. Those who have studied the psychology of children discover that it’s vital for children to pick up skills and teach others. Going outside and being physically active is also a great way to learn how to be a better person in the long run.
“I need more family time than that.”
This is the most common mistake parents make, the wish that a child would suffer less in comparison to their friends, with whom they’ve grown up playing. However, the truth is that children are capable of separating themselves from others; they’re not simply imitating, nor are they influenced by people who seem to be in a different mindset than them. Unfortunately, this behavior is what they do when they experience stress, loneliness or boredom.
“I’m just playing around with my toys.”
They’re not meant to be a recreation of video games or video phone. Children are playful creatures who know when it’s time to relax, to play and have fun. By being too physically active, they begin to tire. By playing with the outside world, children also have the chance to discover new environments. The playgrounds aren’t all as safe as children think they are. In fact, kids develop severe arthritis from vigorous play, and heavy play causes serious health problems. It’s best to focus on exercise, which will keep kids active and in good shape, and allows them to discover new things.
“It’s too hard”
Children often experience these sorts of feelings when they’re around other kids. Playgrounds can feel unsafe, and they’re physically exhausting. When you’re around your child, you can’t help but think about things that they can’t do. They’re frequently told they can’t play in the basement, or they can’t go out in the afternoon, or they can’t stop and play with you until someone asks them to. But their natural development doesn’t always happen in this manner. Sometimes they just need to let things go, and to learn how to survive when their dreams and aspirations are met.
Finding a way to allow children a free hand in the world can be surprisingly difficult, but it is critical to help them develop as humans. For example, asking children how they’re feeling or what they’re doing can give them a better understanding of what they need to do, and allows them to achieve their goals. For any parent, it’s worth the