Parenting and Your Son or Daughter
Children are everywhere! They are everywhere, which means that it is easier than ever to be a parent. How you define yourself as a parent has a lot to do with how that child will eventually perceive your parenting style.
Children love attention, praise, and validation. They also love to play outside and things they see around them. However, what they may not love, is a parent who does not appreciate that they are the most important person at the table. Knowing where your needs are as a parent is extremely important. If your child sees you saying things like “not cool. We don’t do that here” and judging them, then it is time to really think about how you are a parent.
Many children also care about where you spend your money. They want to know how it is spent and what goes into all of the decisions. They want to know why you do certain things. The best way to let them know how you are spending your money is to explain what you are doing and why. A great way to do this is to ask them questions like “why do you do that?”, or “do you like that?” Let them respond to you and you can better understand how they feel about what you are doing. Your child may see you answering their questions as providing them with information, but you can also do this by “asking them questions.” You can say things like “why are you upset that your doll doesn’t wear that outfit?”, and then act as if you understand what they are telling you, but aren’t sure if you agree with them, what they are saying, or even how they are saying it. You can ask them questions like “who are you talking to?”, or “what do you mean?” by asking the question in a way that you don’t immediately see their answer. This will enable you to get more information about their mood and what they are thinking.
It is important to understand your child’s environment before you decide what you want to do with them. How did the world really change over the past 10,000 years? Was the evolution of nature over the last 3,000 years anything like the progression that you know? Do you need to go to the library to teach your child about the world around them or do you just have to trust your natural instincts and listen to what they are telling you? Everyone is different.