Opioid Crisis: How AI Will Help Us Heal Our Relationship
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Call it procrastination.
It’s not news that a 2017 mega trend (think AI and blockchain) will command further media attention this year.
Yet while technology, is changing the world (and our minds), I can’t help but wonder what it’s actually changing in our personal relationships.
In 2016, we learned that Google scientists have created artificial intelligence that can identify their emotions in others through bone structure.
This new insight is significant because it may provide insight into an inner component of human intimacy that goes unseen by the general public.
In fact, it’s probably well known by most but less appreciated: Self-awareness – the awareness of self – is an essential source of closeness.
This developmental mental skill in the brain’s limbic area is said to be the core of empathy.
“Decide on something and do it,” the great New Yorker writer James Thurber once advised. “You’ll feel good about yourself because you chose something that appealed to you.”
That’s true, yes, but it’s not the whole truth.
To illustrate the validity of this view, here’s an example of extreme behavior from psychology literature that offers a new perspective on love – a view I hope you’ll bear in mind as we move into this new year:
Each week, I write a featured post on Recipetips, a personal and life coaching company.
This week’s featured post is a question on building empathy in relationships.
Just as thinking for yourself can contribute to empathy, you can use emotions – both negative and positive – for the same purpose.
Take, for example, a famous, uplifting quote by St. Francis of Assisi, whom I’m privileged to know personally.
“Not like some people who think they are brave,” he observed. “Rather like wolves who think they are noble. True bravery is not standing in front of a tiger … but going after the tiger when he is sleeping.”
Can you relate?
We often think about love, and ultimately our relationships, in linear, color-coded ways.
In one space, we’ll ponder the attraction of partners: the sense of relief that comes when someone admits their love.
In another space, we think about what it’s like to nurture the bond of two people through love’s most trying times: cohabitation, grief, sickness, etc.
But how often are we actually willing to suspend our ego-driven biases and step outside these perspectives and become more compassionate toward the other person?
Consider a familiar story about an episode of HBO’s “The Leftovers” last year (April, 2017).
We first encounter a man who clearly hates and dislikes his wife. But we quickly see that “bashing her” feels like a waste of time.
Then, in the show’s next scene, we encounter a scene that conveys the man’s empathy in a different light.
As a young woman comes home from the grocery store, she’s woken by a threatening phone call. This man, she discovers, has been following her from the grocery store.
He suddenly, silently, changes his tone as she says goodbye, confessing his love for her.
It’s touching and unexpected, just like love itself.
This article will continue in an upcoming post about the condition of the ego.
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