10 Ways to Not Share the Love
Share the love
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t Kids aren’t afraid to give constructive criticism. They love to step in and offer advice. Research shows that we learn more from feedback than we think—a little bit from feedback about what’s going well and a lot from feedback about what’s not working. The key is to be totally open to receiving it. When you lose your kid’s opinion, don’t reject his comments, take them seriously and do what she’s trying to say. What’s most important is for you to keep trying. If you don’t, she’ll eventually go somewhere else. The key is to be totally open to receiving it. When you lose your kid’s opinion, don’t reject his comments, take them seriously and do what she’s trying to say. What’s most important is for you to keep trying.
Eat like a queen
t If you think your kid is big on life lessons, then give him a treat! The phrase “not to spoil the party” was coined by Jonathan Ruhnau, a psychiatrist in Minnesota, because he tried to instill a healthy sense of caution in his kids when celebrating a birthday. This perfectly applies to holiday dinners when indulging can be highly tempting. Feed your kids the well-balanced meal that they deserve and they’ll find it extremely satisfying.
When Kim Stavert’s son woke up one morning not toting the watch he’d clipped on to the outfit he wore to school the previous day, they weren’t quite ready to let him go back to camp yet. But, when she made an easy change to put his top on and jeans on before going to work, he nailed it. He began sporting the custom outfit again and a few days later the panic when he forgot his car keys had subsided. Now he wants her to continue to put the clothes on—and he forgets them after just a few days.
Take a gamble
t By all means, show your kid that you’re willing to try new activities. Did he skip that first craft because it was last-minute, or was it simply a while? Ask him to explain. Most kids love learning new things and will appreciate your willingness to try new things too.
Put mom jeans to use
t If your kids have a passion or a career, then their favorites are usually things they’ve gotten to try. If your kids have a passion or a career, then their favorites are usually things they’ve gotten to try. Kids do a great job of keeping you motivated. I have two preteens and they throw a raucous tantrum on how “stupid” a project is. If I don’t have them around then I’m always stuck and stumped. After a while, they make me realize that this excuse is useless and I must kick-start it. Then you begin to see that your kid loves it when you try to get it done. It really inspires you to get the job done. You are the leader, the project manager, and the father of the house. If you can’t see this now, it may be too late.
Make your kids lazy
t Don’t cancel things because your child isn’t having any fun. If they don’t want to go to a play date, but they’ve made it clear they want one, then you can make the date. Tell them you’ll go, but that you’re looking forward to the next time you go. Make it happen and create more memories.