Parents urged to accept that their kids talk with boys
“Girls talk to boys all the time! They’re just blowing smoke up their asses…” A male friend said the morning after the Virginia Tech massacre. The victims were sent tumbling by a 50-bullet hail of bullets. And what was everyone else saying that he? “It’s only stuff that boys like,” he said. So no one is really surprised anymore when a ten-year-old kid pulls out a gun to shoot his teacher. Or if kids start using cocaine in middle school.
Now it’s time to take a look at the actual way that boys relate to their peers. Even if it means talking to boys about boys—or working together to develop and implement programs that put girls in a positive attitude about themselves and other girls.
A generation of women think that we just need to relax and get out of our heads. We even want to codify our brainwashing with a language we can reference. At the end of a discussion with a high school girl who had just been verbally confronted by a boy she was dating, I asked her if she had any questions. “How did he feel about that?” “Was it okay?” “What did you think about it?”
“Can you think of anything else he said to her?” I continued. “He mentioned something about you being too loud. But he was lying, right? I’m calling on him to come here and tell me what he didn’t like.”