Empathy is something to teach
Adults share the unconscious biases of their upbringing; but parents should be reminded of this even during the more “average” times. It helps to recall experiences with kindness – even when they are forgetful, unhappy, or just plain tired.
Parents and teens can share their common experiences and vulnerabilities during a stressful situation (i.e. homework, tests, exams, etc). By doing so, parents can gain the perspective of their teens, whom they teach to relate to people – something they often struggle with as adults.
Encourage your teen to leave their room when they are having a panic attack. Encourage your teens to remain calm and keep talking. Perhaps then, with some support from you, they will begin to slowly be able to recognize the symptoms and do what they can to feel more secure.
Encourage your teen to have more friends who are able to express empathy – and preferably toward other people, such as the ones who don’t do those types of things.
Adults and children often come from completely different places – cultures, class, and age differences. As the adult, you may feel that having a child always listen to your every word is imperative, and it may make sense for you to constrain your children’s opportunities for doing things. However, parents may be underestimating their kids’ abilities to do well on a test or on a test period. As a parent, do not restrict an individual’s opportunities in the future. Instead, allow your child to step out of their comfort zone, to try something new or pursue a new hobby – unless you feel that this would negatively affect them.
Empathy is a valuable quality and it helps to be kind with others when confronted with tough circumstances. Parents of teens can teach empathy to them.
Parents of teens can teach empathy to them.
Parents often feel that they must take care of their kids and that they must do things right at all times – even if what they are doing or saying isn’t appropriate. Especially in regards to discussing sensitive subjects, parents often feel that they have to act or say something – even if their child does not agree with it. Teenagers sometimes go out of their way to avoid awkward conversations or subject matters with their parents, as they may be either afraid of hurting their parent’s feelings or they may not want to jeopardize their parent’s interest in them or relationship.
Still, mothers and fathers should not get so affected by their children’s behavior or choice of words that they do not react emotionally, however. These parents must remember that it is the emotional in their child that they must always get – and not their actual behavior. One way for your parent to interact more meaningfully with your child is to focus on how they feel.
How to be empathetic with your kids
There are many ways to communicate with your children, but the most important way to express love to your child is to show them that you care. As a parent, you should remember the wisdom of Lady Gaga: If you love someone enough to look inside yourself, you will open your heart to the person inside them.
Parents should make an effort to be present in their children’s life, knowing the little and big moments that change it. Parents should also be encouraging – rather than encouraging their children to avoid them.