What Parents Can Do To Encourage Children To Take Positive Action

What Parents Can Do To Encourage Children To Take Positive Action

What Parents Can Do To Encourage Children To Take Positive Action

Dear High School Parents,

Every day you likely think of ways to make your child feel better, regardless of what their day has brought them. One day, perhaps, they’re sick, but that may not be your main concern when it comes to getting them to eat and behave. Today’s world is chaotic and adults sometimes let others’ reactions to their behavior cause their own unhealthy reactions, including in how they parent. It’s a small example of a larger issue, but doing so leaves your kids to deal with whatever condition happens to happen to them and with you having the power to fix your child’s current situation. This is why, when it comes to parenting, it pays to have a clear and healthy expectation of their needs at home.

What Parents Can Do To Encourage Children To Take Positive Action

We know that doing more in life brings us happiness, which is why when children begin to feel unhappy or frustrated, it can sometimes be hard to motivate them to take positive action. To help your child’s unhappiness, here are some suggestions on how to encourage your child to take the necessary steps.

Take Away Punishment. As mentioned above, it’s very important that your child feel like they can take positive action when something goes wrong. Punishing them may make them feel good, but they may not understand why or how. The best method for making a change is for you to take away that action and work on encouraging them to take positive action.

Be Selfless. Don’t focus on yourself, your responsibilities or what you can do to make your child happy. The goal of parenting is to encourage your child to take their own actions and activities into consideration, not yours. They do not need to do things for you.

Don’t Go Too Far. If you only criticize, criticize. Instead of making harsh statements and suggestions, tell your child how they can take constructive action so you can move onto the next step. If a child is angry and inconsolable, but doesn’t let you know what they’re thinking, then it may be possible to contain their anger by reminding them of positive aspects of their current situation. The moment a parent points out something they’re not doing, the child may respond that it’s unfair to point out such a negative aspect when they aren’t making positive actions.

Ask Them What They’re Thinking. Your child will know what they need to know when they have the chance to express their thoughts and feelings. Trying to tell them how to change their behavior or take action when they don’t know what they want to do is not working. Ask them what they think about what they’re doing. By asking them directly, they’ll have a better opportunity to tell you what they want.

Tell Them So. If your child is doing something they wish they hadn’t done, and it is ruining their day, this is a great time to gently get them to change. Tell them why they’re not doing the thing they want to do or think they should do. By gently telling them, they will most likely realize that they will be the one who has to face the consequences, so they may change their behavior.

Know When To Let Go. Letting go of your child is tough, but you must do this when necessary. You can be the patient parent that your child needs, but you cannot prevent them from taking positive action. You must understand that each person has a different timetable, so you must know when to give your child a rest, too.

Make Them Feel At Home. When a child is feeling miserable, they will focus more on other people than they will on you. You have to make it safe and comfortable for your child to share their feelings and feelings, and in addition to showing your affection, offer your time to calm them down and yourself. Your child is an important person in your life, so it’s important that you make sure they feel truly at home.

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These are just a few tips to help you and your child reach their full potential. There are more, so feel free to share them in the comments section below!

This article was originally published at Tina Ford, Coaching Parenting Coach . Reprinted with permission from the author.

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