The Importance of Telling Your Child About Bullying
3. Parents or teachers don’t believe students when they complain about being bullied at school.
2. If you have found yourself defending your children or grandchildren during a bullying incident, that might be because your child or grandchild is being targeted for a greater reason than bullying.
1. Many teenage boys are spending hundreds of hours on computers and games, playing violent video games that require their virtual avatars to brutalize, bully, intimidate and disfigure their victims.
10 Truths About Bullying
Parents know bullying when they see it. Teachers and other educators don’t. You didn’t decide what your child should or shouldn’t read at school. You didn’t find out what his or her friends read on the Internet. You didn’t decide your child’s classmates’ words were abusive, misogynistic or homophobic. You aren’t the arbiter of who gets paid to play a video game. So what the heck is going on? Many parents and teenagers are being bullied and many more adolescents are interacting with the people who are bullying them. There are a number of reasons why your child or teenager may be bullied in school or on the Internet. It’s not their fault. This is why we encourage parents to go into your children’s lives and look for signs of bullying.
Bullying Is Not Just What Happens in School
Bullying is not confined to school buildings and digital spaces. It can happen at the grocery store, in the grocery lines, and even in places like computer games. Some minor hardships today can explode into major problems with a child if they start to pick a fight. The environment at school is not always conducive to dealing with adolescent stress or personal awkwardness.
Co-Exploring Social media is a Moment in Time
Social media apps such as Snapchat, Twitter, Tumblr, etc. are fascinating and sometimes frightening. We encourage parents to familiarize themselves with these platforms and read a little bit about them. Unfortunately, a lot of parents are getting in over their heads trying to figure out what their children are doing and saying online.
Face-to-Face Confrontations Are Real & Emotional
Challenging the unacceptable is never easy. It isn’t as simple as pressing play on a game or clicking a button. Sometimes it requires meeting with the bully, their parents, coaches, and teachers in person. At first, the initial response might be to carry on with your everyday life and ignore the issue. But finally confronting the bully can make a real difference in that person’s life. The physical or mental toll bullying can take can be unbearable. Counseling can also help a bully face the fact that the world isn’t a game.
One Size Does Not Fit All
Just because a few kids bully doesn’t mean that they are bullying across the board. Each child has a different situation with different types of bullying. Keep in mind that cyberbullying and bullying are not always related. The physical or psychological scars might be a lot harder to get rid of than those of a fight or physical assault. Some parents and teens are doing the work to address bullying in school and online.
What YOU Can Do About It
If you and your teenager are being bullied and you think he or she may be developing an issue with respect to their body image or a suicidal threat, please tell your child’s teacher and other adult. This doesn’t mean that they have a right to talk about it or to make a fuss over it but they certainly should know about it.
If you think your teenager is a bully, please make sure that they know they are not the only ones doing it. There is nothing wrong with helping other teens discover they aren’t being bullied.