Let Girls Know They Aren’t “Getting Too Old”
Since childhood, girls tend to have many questions about what puberty means – especially after they enter puberty. Boys, on the other hand, tend to ask the same question – except for the reason that they didn’t get the questions about puberty in the first place. Some of the questions we children ask are:
What is puberty?
Why does my body change?
Why do boys get to be guys before girls?
Does it hurt when I grow up?
What happens when you get older?
How long will I get into trouble and have to “grow up”?
How does growing up make me change?
Having more questions and creating anxiety can make a child feel very vulnerable about physical changes and acts they’ve never experienced before, even if this wasn’t the case. A lot of children worry that their body is no longer growing in the same way as they did when they were little.
The truth is that the skin changes with age – but the rest of the body doesn’t seem to get smaller, just as puberty tends to last for about a month before the boy starts to grow his legs in and start walking instead of sitting. Some kids may have less questions after puberty than others, but even a few ambiguous questions from a child can cause them major anxiety.
Puberty is really none of our business and is actually something that varies greatly depending on person and individual, though it all ends the same: It’s a very natural process. Your child shouldn’t feel pressured to be worried about the physical changes of puberty. What is really important to know is that no one really understands the fear, how things will be different, and how the changes can happen to us physically but not mentally, like your child may experience after puberty.
Contact your health care provider for questions about puberty, including questions about staying relaxed when puberty starts.