How to Support Kids During Tough Times
“How can adults support student success without stressing them out?”
By Cari Nicolai
Most parents, teachers, community leaders, and even peers can be easily stressed out at times.
However, sometimes having kids in your life can be just as difficult.
When kids are in school, it can be all you can do not to lose your composure and stress yourself out! Even though we all know that stress affects our physical health, it can really begin to take a toll on us as parents.
According to a recent survey in the Journal of the American Dietetic Association (AAD), more than half of teens (51 percent) say they have seen their parents stressing out, and 43 percent reported that they’ve considered quitting school because of their parents’ stress. As a mom, I understand exactly what parents are feeling. On many days, I’ve thought it was really important to get out of the house because my kids are too stressed out to handle the extra stress.
But, why do kids get stressed out at school?
Researchers have determined that stress can come from many things, but it’s most often a combination of things like having to study harder for a test than others, growing up without strong example set by a parent or an older sibling, or experiencing loss. Regardless of the reason, it’s common for kids to experience stress at school. If you worry that you’re stressing out your child, here are some tips that may help.
Let them know that you’re there for them
My main goal is to make sure my kid knows I’m always here to talk to him or her. When a kid is overwhelmed, we all want a shoulder to cry on. I wanted to make sure that my child knew that I would be there for him even if we had a disagreement. Over the years, my child and I have learned that this approach is really beneficial.
Ask for help if needed
Although it can be tough to ask for help, you really must if you want to give your kid a boost. If you’re having trouble paying for school or studying, don’t feel like there’s nothing you can do to help. You have to do what you can to help!
Set a time to sit down and talk
It may be intimidating to sit down with your child. However, taking the time to sit down with them at times may be even harder than when you’re stressed out. Whatever your topic, make sure you don’t talk before you’re able to clearly express your thoughts. You should also make sure you’re speaking in detail about what’s bothering you. You don’t want to come off as bossy or stern, and you want your child to understand that you’re here for his or her benefit.
Be flexible with schedules
Try to work around your child’s schedule. Sometimes scheduling conflicts between activities or school events could mean it’s not the best time to talk. However, we all want to provide our kids with extra support. If your child can’t make school in the morning, don’t feel like there’s nothing you can do to make up for the class. Usually after school activities fill in for school, but if your child isn’t involved in anything, don’t let that stop you from helping. Kids love to help, and they will be glad to provide extra support for you if you’re willing to take the time to talk.
Also, if you think that your child is getting stressed out at school, try talking to your pediatrician.
These tips are designed to help you support your child in a healthy way. If your child is stressing out, it’s important to be a caring parent. At this age, a healthy head of the bed and a healthy meal are his or her top priorities.
These tips are a great way to build relationships with your kids. Don’t get stressed out and think your kid’s stress will stop! Don’t take things personally and just let your child know that you’re here for him or her.